It is with heavy hearts that we welcome you to our ministry. We exist because we too have lost a child and wish to comfort those who know this pain. You can read our story and learn more about what we do as you navigate through the tabs below.
Please know that you are not alone and that the darkness that you feel right now will ease with time, love, and support. We hope and pray that we can be of some comfort to you in these coming days.
October 15- A day of remembrance- but also a day of awareness for those who have no idea what it's like to lose a baby- or just how terribly common it is.
As we go through the day with all the activities we have planned- let us always be aware that there are people who are suffering. Let us never judge anyone because of the way they look, act, or think. For we never know what they have possibly just been through.
Let us forever be that listening ear, that shoulder to cry on, that one friend that the hurting can lean on in their time of pain. May we be a light and a blessing to all those around us.
"Heaven's Gift"...that's what we chose to have written on Grant's grave stone. It is also written across the wall in our house that holds his picture frame and shadow box. So simple, really; but it means the world to us. Grant was truly, a gift from Heaven. In many ways. In spite of all this pain and suffering that we have felt, I am able to look back and see many gifts- the gift of seeing a positive pregnancy test for the first time. (with Jake we had a blood test since we were doing treatments) I don't know, but I always wanted to take a pregnancy test and see one with two pink lines- I always wondered what that felt like!
We also received the gift of feeling that sense of "Hey, we conceived without a bunch of doctors present for the occasion!"
If you've ever struggled with infertility you know what I mean when I say this.
As great as all that was, I think the most important gift we got from Grant, was the gift of love and compassion for others. While I can't EVER say that I enjoy this new world of baby loss; I CAN say that it has made me so much more aware of other people's struggles and pain. I think I was so ignorant before this- so wrapped up in all the things that really mean nothing at all. I was judgmental too- never meaning to be, but I think I was in many respects. It's so easy to point fingers at other people and how they are handling different things in their life. But to really sit down and LISTEN- that's all that people want- they want someone to listen. Someone to genuinely care about what's going on. Though I can still use improvement in my listening skills, and perhaps send out more encouraging cards or emails, I can see that I am making a real effort. When I am busy, DOING this ministry, it is then that I feel peace, and healing and progress. Grief recovery is difficult, long, and it involves taking baby steps.
Now that I have been through it, I am able to know how to help someone else. As one of my girlfriends said once, "One can never say that Grant did not have a purpose in his short life- for it was God who purposed him for great things!"
Thank you, son, for teaching me what true love is all about.
We have posted a list of items that are needed to keep this ministry going.
Rectangle baskets found at Walmart and basket filler in off white or dark brown (the filler hangs above the baskets at Walmart)
White printing paper
Off white cardstock
Shower gel with matching body lotion (we currently use and prefer AVON naturals) but Mary Kay or Bath and Body could work, mini size
Lip Balm (again we are currently using AVON)
white 4x4 chipboard (ebay)
Assorted ribbon, especially sheer and satin neutral or pastel colors
Craft brads- hearts, flowers, circles, squares, anything goes hereStickers, such as "Remember", "Cherish", "Courage", "Love", "Memories", etc
Stamps and stamp ink
Patterned Paper Pads (JoAnn's and Hobby Lobby has best selection, or possibly a scrapbooking store)
Small square white craft boxes, Michael's, 99 cents each
Hard wrapped candies (such as Jolly Ranchers)
Oriental Trading Company white plush lambs